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Voice dialogue is a powerful  do-it-yourself skill that quickly helps you gain  and grow your self awareness. It is a natural skill, open to anyone, not a form of therapy or a theoretical model dreamed up by academics. It works and as it works it increases your sense of  self empowerment which assists you in your own natural self-healing. Discover what happens when you use voice dialogue, that is interviewing your inner selves, meeting and talking with your sub personalities. It works...    (see your invitation at the foot of each page  confirming FREE copying)   
Discover who you really are, achieve what you really want to with your life.  Learn how to use voice dialogue to expand your self awareness and increase your sense of self-empowerment.
Make positive changes in your life and your relationships (the changes you want, the changes that really make a difference)
Over 50 pages of information (all FREE to copy) transferred over lovingly from my older website

* This site is about Voice Dialogue and Self-Awareness work, one  of my great passions.  It is dedicated to Dr Hal Stone and and Dr Sidra Stone who developed this powerful process and their continuing work on the Psychology of the inner Selves.

If you are interested in Voice Dialogue training and Self Awareness groups in Queensland Australia you can check out the latest news on

This site.

I also have other passionate interests that all have to do with personal growth and inner child work. Some of these are connected to but not directly related to Voice Dialogue. So  my articles about those topics won’t appear on this web site.  

Go to  Core Beliefs Balance -  A web site devoted to balancing your hidden negative core beliefs and the clamps and blockages and over-reactions they cause in peoples lives

For a full listing, synopsis and links to each site please scroll down to the foot of this page.


An e-mail from Your Inner child

Your Emotional Age Guide

NOTES on Dissociative  Identity Disorder ( DID)

NOTES on Developmental Trauma Disorder ( DTD)

NOTES on Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)

NOTES on Addictions

Power and control issues

Avoiding manipulation

Voice Dialogue Pages

Voice dialogue explained

Try  it Yourself

Facilitators Guide (a working script)

The Inner Parenting process

The great Law of Energetic Balance

Inner selves and the great Law

Different Inner Selves

What selves do - job descriptions

Primary and Disowned

Inner Patriarch

Inner Matriarch

Other well known selves

Your free Inner self profile

Self Awareness Pages

Processing and Validating Your Past

Repeated Patterns  that are Self-defeating

Stages of self awareness

Opposite or polarised Energies

Personal and Impersonal pairs

Impersonal selves

Personal selves

Doing and being selves

Hot Wired Reactions

Voice Dialogue training by phone

Voice dialogue sessions by phone

Other Articles


Rules for  the School of Life

When NOT to use Voice Dialogue

Links and contacts:

Voice Dialogue - Practitioners

Voice Dialogue - Bibliography

Voice Dialogue - Video Links

About John Nutting

Old Website:

Growing Awareness 2000

Table of contents Ed 2000

For a complete list of all the pages on this website click here Site Map

What’s this about  an “inner village”?

NOTE: Because this is my Voice Dialogue site, in most cases on this website you will notice I stick to well recognised voice dialogue terms to describe the inner selves, and explain how they protect us. I do however try to make my explanations easier to visualise by telling stories or fables to create a clearer picture in your mind.  

Some abstract voice dialogue descriptions are a bit difficult to visualise, for example the “primary inner selves that make up the operating ego”.  In my own world what goes on in my operating ego is so much like an old fashioned village that I have got used to describing my operating ego as my “inner village” and in these pages I often use that term. I hope it might help you also to visualise what is going on for you in your operating ego.

An interesting aspect to this is that when I dialogue with other people’s inner selves and I ask them about “life in your inner village” they often respond in a way that suggests they, as inner selves feel very comfortable talking about their daily work load and their responsibilities as if it was taking place in a familiar old and rather tradition bound village.

I imagine this is because most inner selves can’t quite get their busy minds around abstract psychological descriptions. What I have discovered is that the more I talk with them as members of an inner village the more this seems to help them develop their sense of character, and their ability to talk about their work more freely, which is one of the basic aims of voice dialogue. I have yet to talk with an inner self that tells me “Correction, I live and work in an operating ego not a village!”

Other people’s selves that I have dialogued with, live and work in an inner garden, an inner family, an inner tribe, an inner orchestra, an inner shop; an inner bus, on an inner ship, a train, an inner plane, an inner congregation. If visualising things this way helps people understand voice dialogue then I support the idea of letting your inner selves (as I allow mine to do) live wherever they want to, including an operating ego if that is their preference.  

The best way as with all aspects of voice dialogue is to discuss this question with a few inner selves and ask them to tell you how they best like to describe the place where they live and work.

What is the SAGE?

On this website I often use the terms “self aware and grown-up” or SAGE to describe the part of us, the rather different kind of inner selves that we are all seeking to develop, our Aware Grown Up system.  

I do not suggest that this is the same as the "Aware Ego" as Hal and Sidra Stone describe it, however the "SAGE” part of us reflects many of the characteristics of what Hal and Sidra describe as the "Awareness Self". In most people I work with the SAGE selves are identified by their more balanced energy and their desire to integrate the and work as balanced pairs instead of the previously unbalanced way that is typical of polarised opposite inner selves.

As I see it, identifying and dialoguing with the SAGE selves quickly gives us a way of consciously connecting with our sense of self empowerment, and self-awareness. As we dialogue with them, talking with those selves, identifying them and addressing them as the  “self aware grown-up system” helps us:

* provide that person (and her or his inner child) with clear evidence that there is a stronger more self aware system now working within them

*  identify what tasks the self aware grown-up selves are ready to take over from the older more polarised “we’ve always done it that way” selves

* create a stronger sense that this stronger part of us is already “up and running” and available right now  to start protecting our inner child and reducing our underlying vulnerability.

There is bit of a problem with the term “ego” in Australia because down here it has so many different connotations and different meanings for individual people (most of them negative). For this reason I don’t often make a direct reference to the “aware ego” by that name.  

Some people have suggested that’s also because I still haven’t developed much of an aware ego of my own.

I will leave it to you to make that judgement for yourself.

Recently added pages

EMDR Why and how  it works so well with PTSD

Your Emotional Age gauge

Processing and Validating Your Past

Repeated Patterns  that are Self-defeating (RSDP)


Personal and impersonal selves

Doing and being selves

Hot Wired or Triggered Reactions

Life on Your Inner Bus

An Orchestral Fable

Disowning Explained

Dissociative identity Disorder DID



Phone me for your personal Voice Dialogue session

Voice Dialogue and Growing Awareness

“..... A remarkable tool for self help and empowerment”

From Hal Stone PhD and Sidra Stone PhD authors of “Embracing Our Selves” and creators of Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of the Selves

My websites - each one dealing with a different topic

My Flagship site  -  this site
The latest information on voice dialogue - a powerful tool for growing self-awareness, self empowerment, self-healing and the Key to Balancing your Life..This site explains voice dialogue and self awareness using recognised terms and descriptions. It is dedicated to Dr Hal Stone and and Dr Sidra Stone who developed this powerful process and their continuing work on the Psychology of the inner Selves.

Emotional Age Awareness
Recognise your different Energy states or inner selves and the different Emotional Tools they each use

My new  website  -April 2013
A compact site that summarises and links to all my other sites. Features automatic downloads for my free books and a shopping trolley where you can purchase all the latest Growing Awareness publications.

My first website now in its 16th year
Most pages from this original site are being transferred to the new Flagship site (above) but there are still many pages well worth while reading. More information about voice dialogue - a powerful tool for growing self-awareness, self empowerment, self-healing and the Key to Balancing your Life.

Balance and unblock your inner clamps
Core beliefs are one of the main causes of clamps and blockages that stop us growing or doing what we want to in life. This site will help you to diagnose your own unique negative core belief and then balance it.

Loving and Protecting Inner Children everywhere
Dedicated to inner children everywhere. A magical site with some practical advice on how to love, protect and care for your own Inner child using voice dialogue and other skills including visualisation and story telling..

A Self Awareness site to help Men and Women overcome the toxic influence of their Inner Patriarch and Inner Matriarch
Self awareness and self empowerment  work differently for women and men. At the heart of these differences are two extremely dangerous inner selves - the Inner Matriarch and the Inner Patriarch. They fight each other constantly and they encourage fights between men and women. The only thing they have in common is that they are both dedicated to keeping all men and all women out of loving, successful grown-up relationships at home, at work or anywhere else. We all have an Inner Patriarch and an Inner Matriarch inside us but there is much we  do to reduce their toxic influence.

Healing a Broken or damaged relationship
About broken relationships and what it takes to heal them.

Experiments in an alternative style of Voice Dialogue
An experimental and alternate way of explaining voice dialogue using easy to visualise descriptions, fables and analogies based around life in the the "inner village" and the journey as we climb further up "Awareness Hill "  WARNING this website does not use classic voice dialogue wording.

Fellow trainer and author Jill Spring’s website.

Amazing UK Life Coach Sarah Strudwick's site http://balance-and-empower.com

Making positive changes in your life, the way you want to make them and at your own pace.

Personal growth and freedom through self-awareness, increasing the positive choices you have in life.

Making your relationships work. Partnering skills, developing intimacy, trust and stronger linkage.

Voice Dialogue and how it helps to create all these positive changes in your life.

Growing your self-awareness, and how this increases your self empowerment.




Advanced Voice Dialogue and Negative Core Belief Training - Bookings - The Relaxation Centre - Alderley Brisbane Qld. Phone 07 3856 3733 Next training starts  mid October 2013 -

Once a week on Thursday evenings

Phone 07 3261 2882 for information

Voice Dialogue Facilitator Training Groups - South East Queensland - North Brisbane - South West Brisbane - Sunshine Coast

Trainer John Bligh Nutting has been facilitating since 1993. He trained with Drs Hal Stone and Sidra Stone  in Australia and in the USA and is the author of several voice dialogue books in the “Growing Awareness” Series.

You can contact John by phone on Brisbane Qld 07 3261 2882 or by e-mail

Recent  posts

Emotional Age and the Inner selves

EMDR Why and how  it works so well with PTSD  

Repeated Childhood Trauma


RSDP (Repeated Self-defeating Patterns)


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2. Loving Your Inner Child    

3. Introduction to Voice Dialogue   

 4. Introduction to Emotional Age Balancing   

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NOTE:  My original  412 page text book "Growing Awareness" published in 2000" is no longer in print. I have republished the original book as a series of 10 new and revised books, the "Growing Awareness G Set"

Index of all pages on this website

A new page on this website

Click on Emotional Age and Your Inner Selves

The more I work with Voice Dialogue and the Inner Selves the more I come to appreciate the significance of the emotional age of each individual inner self.

This new approach is, I believe, one of the most significant that I have worked on in recent years. It explains the link between what inner selves do, how effective they are when they do those things and the link with their emotional age.

Free Inner Self Profile Sheets and a free book -  For many years I have been using different kinds of Inner Self profile sheets that help keep a visual record of your inner selves as you meet and talk with them.

There are different places for different kinds of selves on the profile sheet according to their different energies, emotional ages or the different ways they do things to protect you.

If you would like a copy of the latest version of my Profile sheets it is now part of a free book that explains how to use the profile.

Download  my free book “Introduction to Voice Dialogue ”  from www.flyingawareness.com