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• If you don’t like yourself (and your inner selves) then you’ll find it hard to like other people. The more you like yourself the more others will like you.

• The degree to which you are uncomfortable with your own inner selves reflects the degree that you will be triggered by other people’s selves.

• People who cannot be open and honest with themselves expect dishonesty and deception in others.

• If you feel free to be who you really are then you will be comfortable with others who feel free to be themselves, even those who are very different from you.

• There are always things within us that we really need to change and this is usually an area where we have problems. The aware adult state is the only position from which two people can safely share this kind of information with each other.

• The better you are at receiving positive or constructive criticism from others and owning the parts of it that are true, the better you will be at sharing the same kind of message with others.

• The harder you find it to look at and deal with these issues in you, the harder it will be to talk as an aware adult to others even about things they really might need to look at in themselves.

• One way to deal with another person whose primary self is strongly out of balance is to let them know that as your aware ego develops, you too are able to connect to a similar self or energy, within you, even though it is normally disowned or hidden.

SEE ALSO THE GREAT LAW OF ENERGETIC BALANCE

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Disowning and disowned selves are both controlled by the psychic law of energetic balance

Based on Dr. Hal Stone and Dr. Sidra Stone’s basic psychic laws, page 15 in ‘Embracing Each-other’

For each energy state or self within you there exists an opposite energy or an opposite self. Often one is outside of you, other times both are inside you. You cannot get rid of either one of them and if you try to disown one it will find other ways to come back to you in order to maintain energetic balance.

When you disown an inner self this law can have an extremely powerful effect:.

For an explanation of what is meant by “disowned selves” click on

This link Disowning explained

The Psychic law of Energetic balance as it Applies to Disowned selves

1. Whatever part of your personality you disown, will turn up again and again in your life or in other people around you. The more you feel strong negative or positive energy towards them, the more likely their personality reflects some of your disowned parts.

2. Your disowned parts can also turn up in the same way in animals, mechanical and electronic objects or other things around you.

3. The more you hate, judge, reject, or try to disempower something outside you, the stronger the chance it reflects a disowned part of your personality.

4. If you overvalue, obsess over or feel you cannot resist someone or something, it is equally likely this reflects a disowned part of your personality.

5. Each time this happens it is a chance to learn another lesson about your selves and who you really are. However, you will only see this when you are ready to learn that lesson and can step back far enough to see what the lesson is really about.

6. Until the day you learn that lesson you will continue to attract into your life people, animals, mechanical and electronic objects or other things that you will continue to hate, judge, reject, over-value or feel you cannot resist.

7. Judging, rejecting, overvaluing or being unable to resist people, objects and things that turn up constantly around you, means you are attributing greater value and importance to those items than to yourself. As long as you treat them as if they have some kind of power over you, you treat yourself as less powerful than they are.

8. All this takes up a great deal of time and energy you could be using to become more aware, more conscious and more adult.

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